Better Than Fireworks...

I just read a friend's post and was inspired to write. She has had a history of bad experiences with the men in her life (dad and exes). I have had my share of bad relationships, but none of them abusive... they ended usually because there was a lack of seriousness on my part or their part. I have always believed that a sense of humor was the MOST important thing to me in all my relationships. All of my close friends share my sense of humor... that includes family members I am close to. Before I met my husband I long dated those that I had been able to develop "His Girl Friday" kind of repore. I have to have witty repartee. I can't live without it... if I can't have that back and forth of funny discourse, I am not turned on... That made it difficult to find someone who had a good balance of qualities.

I found several guys in h.s. and college who were only interested in having a fun time, in being the clown... they were not interested in settling down or having a serious discussion once in a while. Almost 10 yrs. ago, when I was at the end of my rope after a bad blind date, I spoke to a friend who had been online and got a "good laugh" out of looking at online dating profiles of guys in her area... since I was so depressed she suggested I look there to cheer up.. . since I was bound to find guys even worse than the guys I was dating. I know... cheery! I did look. I found someone though who seemed out of place... he stood out... he sounded serious... PhD bound... driven.... but what's this..... a fan of Monty Python? A fan of Celtic music? A fan of Gilda Radner? The list went on and on... I went to his site and found the window to my soul... we started emailing... met months later... and we never were apart from then on... never a break-up, never a hiccup.

We got married 3 years ago. We've been very happy and we still have our witty repartee alive and kicking... The only thing I ever worry about is that maybe we don't have sex as much as we should... I'm not wired that way I guess... I can't worry about what society things is "normal" for sex drive... so we talk about that occasionally, but seriously... it's not that big a deal. I'd rather be able to hug and kiss my hubby and laugh lots. Question is can one really have it all? I have all I need. I do. I guess, though, sometimes I wish I had more of the lusty fireworks some people describe... mine are more like eternal sparklers. :o) But I like sparklers... they’re feisty and have a flair all their own.